The Challenge of Being a Patient.

Life is not the same when you suffer from a medical condition. Everything changes, for instance you may require more time to complete a simple task that would initially take seconds. Similarly, getting used to the challenges that were not apparent, when the symptoms were developed, and then adjusting to an altered lifestyle can be very hard. 

As a chronic patient I understand how challenges and opportunities become a part of everyday life. However, this is due to me spending many years with a future looking so dark; full of obstacles, emotions and failing attempts to communicate.

How would I ask for help without the constant thought of being a complete burden to my loved ones? Arrangements would often have to change or be cancelled because of my continual symptom’s taking over my social life and agenda… I was becoming a person with broken dreams and very little energy for life.

Seems very catastrophic, doesn’t it? It’s something that is very difficult to accept, yet seems to be a very frequent state of mind.

The Big Obstacles

fear, limitsFear:
  This natural emotion had two fundamental and basic functions. Firstly, providing an alert about real-life risks. This is a constant thought due to us unknowingly making the best and important decisions to save our lives.  The most important and functional – Provide and alert about a real-life risk- with this signal on countless occasions through our life we have taken the best decisions and saved our life. The second function is when you receive bad news, or are under so much pressure that you’re petrified. It’s hard to move, think or even feel in a positive way. Surprisingly this has a name, ‘Fight or Fly’ – when referring to the stress reactions in your body.

Keeping the issues personal:  The decision to stay silent without communicating; believing that what happens to us just concerns to us. Believing that being alone is the best solution or going through something very difficult causing unprecedented emotions and a lump in the throat… this feeling can only lead to more physical difficulties, emotionally, not just involving yourself, but your loved ones too.

Close your eyes and believe everything will go away: Close your eyes and believe that everything will go away: A craving of belief that nothing will happen. The idea in your head that if you just leave it, it will just go away, magically. However, by not getting properly informed you’re avoiding an unescapable reality.


Negative thoughts:  Those that trap you, entangle you and lead you to negative emotions like anxiety, stress, hopelessness and guilt. They consume a lot of our energy and attention, it is very easy to fall into them and by staying in these thoughts we can have a real or imaginary painful experience.

 The truth is that also, although there are some barriers there are also great aids:

child and nursweCommunity:  Human beings are social beings by nature, we live in society from the moment we are born. Our social circles have a certain measure and way of communicating and sharing. If we are part of society then we belong to a community, regardless of whether it is small or large, frequent or not, close or not. Our needs also lead us to share new forms of emotion, language and thought. Being a person with a special health condition also opens the possibility to recognize new ways of belonging to a community and then feel identified, supported, understood.

Family and friends are generally the closest circles, it is true that sometimes even there it is difficult to communicate or feel  complete with an understanding about our needs, however it is important to look at ourselves and understand if any of our enemies, like fear, keeping silent unnecessary or not wanting to face what happens to us, is what hinders the circles to support our needs in the most functional and positive way.

Space for breathing, silence and reflection:  We live in a world full of noise, emotions, thoughts, tiredness, daily tasks, pain and worries, that’s enough to keep us away from ourselves and not connect with the most essential thing; our own being. Silence, that special act that allows you to place yourself in a protective bubble. It is an extremely special ally since this is where the mind can lower your body’s rhyme and pace and from there provide rest, relief, opportunity to make decisions and recovery. Simply observing our breathing allows us to breathe deeper, with proper rhythm, bringing essential oxygen throughout the body and providing instant relief. Keeping silence and breathing deeply is so that we also have the possibility to reflect. We need to let our mind lead us to a clear analysis of what’s happening. A realization of the type of emotions that accompany us and then also provide the possibility of best decision making.

Information:  We are surrounded by information. Through multiple channels we have access to what we are looking for. When we live with a special health condition that affects our lifestyle we can use many technological tools to inform us by reliable sources about what is important to know.  Having the possibility to inform the people who become our support systems what happens to us, what we need and what is important to decide about our future?

self compassionSelf-compassion and positive thinking:  Recognizing ourselves that we are doing the best we can every day is a way of caring lovingly. Looking at ourselves without judgment and being self-compassionate is calming for our soul and heart. Positive thinking plays a fundamental role because it is powerful and acts on our quality of life as it impacts on the way we see and interact with ourselves and the world. To think positive is to look objectively, hopefully with the confidence of knowing that we will go step by step while offering the possibility of finding the best tools to live in the best possible way. This attitude and thought also open the possibility to receive external support, to feel supported, understood. Facing reality with the personal skills we already have making them work for our own good and that of others. Having a health condition can be the best system to find new ways to communicate with the world, find solutions, empower ourselves, transform the society around us and why not improve our health and quality of life?


A Ray of light

Currently there are multiple ways of having face-to-face or virtual supports, this facilitates the forms of communication and understanding of our reality as patients. Communities are great support systems and in them we can deposit our doubts, concerns, needs, contributions, and our transformation that benefits others.

If you are someone who has just been informed about the new condition of being ostomy patient or for some time, already has been different modalities where you can find support by others sharing the same condition, experts in the medical field care and attention, as well as simply possibility to share life, its challenges and great joys.

Some places where you can go and contact others like you are:

Discussion groups

Friends Ostomates Worldwide:

Buddy Programs in Hospitals where you can contact patients who already have a process of time and progress in their condition which allows them to accompany other patients in the same situation. It is important that you ask your doctor or nurse about this possibility so you would be accompanied in this life experience

11 Health Senior Patient Engagement Officer Keagan Lynngard-Hysell who will be happy to make contact and accompany you in this process as she is also an ileostomy patient truly advocate on helping and accompanying others in their same life situation.

For 11 Health, you are very important and that is why we take care of developing different solutions that allow to support your needs, come with us and we will be glad to be there to accompany you on the way of living with an ostomy. Together we can do it!



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